Saturday, April 10, 2010

Candlelit Dinner for Five

I would love to say my husband and I have shared an intimate candlelit dinner for two recently, however the reality is we are parents to three young children with little availability to go out or eat by ourselves before 8pm!  After learning so much at Master J's Steiner Kindergarten this year and setting a seasonal table at our dining table, I decided to accompany it with some candles.

Mr J does not seem to care for them, however the children love taking it in turns blowing out the candles after dinner.  The mood is set and the soft music is playing.  Dinner time may still require some extra efforts to assist Master J to eat anything other than Vita Brits; but on the whole - we are enjoying our candlelit dinners together. 

I am amazed how the ambiance really does bring such a sense or relaxation and togetherness to our dinnertimes!  Master S and Miss G settle down and enjoy some special family time together while we talk about our day.  With winter approaching, it is even more gorgeous and cosy!

I would love to hear someone try it with their children and let me know if it has such a calming affect on them too!

Cosy Handmade Winter Slippers

These were a fantastic experiment that worked well.  Made from all recycled materials and very easy to put together.  I used sleeves from a knitted woolen jumber for the inner-lining of the sole, the outer sole was a gorgeous floral print I had picked up from the op-shop.  The upper of the slipper is felt and blanket stitched with wool.  My neighbours daughter squeeled with excitment when she opened her present for her 5th birthday.  That was all the encouragement I needed!  So happy with the outcome, stay tuned for listings on !

Friday, April 2, 2010

The Cassandra Affect

Wow, this morning I thought I would 'google'  some reading on the Cassandra Affective Deprivation Disorder (being a wife of an Asperger husband or similar ASD's).  How sad and interesting to read so many women are feeling as I have often, alone and worn out.  But also married to a wonderfully funny and faithful man.  It was disturbing that there has been little support thus far for a common disorder.  When one thinks there is support out there for spouses of alcoholics, gamblers, abuse and accident sufferers - but not such a common disorder in our society.

If you are feeling the affects of being a wife to an Asperger husband, or vice versa for husbands to Aspie wives, it is worth researching that you are not alone.  Stay mindful that it is easier to walk away, but so much more integrous and rewarding to work through a realtionship.  It takes courage and persistence.  I do think we as the spouse need to stay on track and keep positive.  If we cannot receive the emotional connection through our spouse, we may need to gain that energy in other ways and remember our spouse is not intentionally withdrawn.


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